BetterMENt: The Art of Style

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“Style is very personal. It has nothing to do with fashion. Fashion is over quickly. Style is forever.” – Ralph Lauren The art of being yourself sounds simple, yet many people fall into the trap of trying to keep up with trends – wearing specific brands simply because they are popular. I have never cared … Read more

BetterMENt: Ask That Girl To Dance

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There’s a place, west of Kendall County, where boots clack on concrete, and necks sweat from the heat of dancing. Every summer, at Garner State Park, up the bending hill and past the stretch of construction, there’s a dance at the CCC Pavilion. The pavilion is older than anyone dancing in it. Limestone and bald … Read more

BetterMENt: Rebuilding from the Rubble of Moral Failure

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Dennis Postiglione Rebuilding from the Rubble of Moral Failure A person’s life can instantly fracture due to betrayal, addiction, dishonesty, rage, cowardice, or self-destruction. We all make mistakes and accumulate regrets over time. That is part of being human. Some decisions, however, are life-altering and well beyond the scope of a simple mistake. Few people … Read more

BetterMENt: Before It Becomes a Memory

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It’s strange how life speeds up without asking for permission. One moment, I was a freshman walking into high school for the first time, unsure of everything, where my classes were, who I would sit with at lunch, or even who I was going to become. I remember standing in the hallway, trying to act … Read more

Being Present Is the Present for Your Family

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There’s a challenge most dads don’t talk about enough – the difference between being physically present and being actively present. You can be in the room, sitting on the couch, at the dinner table, even on a family outing – and still be somewhere else entirely. Your body is there, but your mind is on … Read more

BetterMENt: Men Need Art and Art Needs Men

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By: Louis Barnes Introduction: In the Spring of 2019, I found myself in Paris, France, watching as flames began to engulf one of the most renowned buildings to ever exist, the Notre Dame Cathedral. Although I had never felt any particular connection with this building, it was deeply disturbing to witness. Fires happen every day … Read more

BetterMENt: The Importance of Dialogue

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By Dale Adams One stereotype of men is that we don’t talk much.  While that is a major overgeneralization, we do sometimes focus more on doing rather than connecting. And when we do connect, conversation may not be as prominent as when women interact.  I think this comes from our goal focus and hunting drive.  … Read more

BetterMENt: Stronger Together: On Pain, Reflection, and the Quiet Strength of Interdependence 

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By: Paul Stephenson, M.A., LPC Genesis Counseling Center The places in life that compel the most reflection are often associated with pain. Contemporary life, perhaps more so than ancient life – or perhaps this is simply what Socrates meant when he warned against the unexamined life. Either way, pain has a way of slowing us down. It interrupts momentum, … Read more

BetterMENt: A Personal Account of Balance

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Living in Lakeway, Texas, in 2020, my family (Kristen, Izzy, and Samuel) was living in a master-planned suburb northwest of Austin where uniformity prevailed, and genuine community engagement was often limited to individual church groups.   We enjoyed weekends out at Lake Travis from time to time, and the schools were known to be really … Read more

BetterMENt: The Art of Saying HOWDY

Frank Addington, Jr Texas is known as a friendly state.  In our early days when folks lived out on ranches, town was where people came to get supplies,  do a little dancing and visit neighbors at a dance hall on Saturday night and attend Church on Sunday.   Technology and screens have changed our lives … Read more